Women-secretly-want.pdf

Hey, welcome back to Get Laid More University. I am your headmaster, professor, and overall

awesome leader of getting pussy, Jon Sinn. Today we’re going to be talking about what women

secretly want.

The topic of female psychology is one that is near and dear to my heart, and something that I

have been teaching for quite a while. Not that I in any way know everything about women, but I

definitely know more than you do. That means that you should listen to everything I have to

say. But you already knew that. That’s why you’re a member of Get Laid More University.

I want to talk about what it means to understand female psychology and understand what

women secretly want, but are not willing to tell you.

Understanding women mean that you’re able to decode what women mean when they talk,

what women’s body language is telling you about the interaction, and that you’re able to

demonstrate that you understand the world of an attractive girl.

I’m going to be citing stuff that I haven’t really talked about before from the book “Why

Women Have Sex” and I’m also going to be sharing common female thoughts, as well as giving

you my five common things that girls say and what they actually mean.

I’m really excited to be getting through this material, as I think it’s some of the more interesting

stuff that’s out there and some of the things that really can cause you to understand women

better and get better results with all women that you’re talking to – not just the ones that

you’re interested in having sex with. It’s going to help you with them, but it’s going to help you

with your mom, your sister, that bitch at work that you hate. Every girl that you interact with

from now until you die a horrible lonely death like we all will. I don’t know why I think that’s

funny, but I do.

What we’re looking at is what they mean when they talk, what their bodies are telling you, and

how to demonstrate that you get it. You’ve often heard dating instructors talk about guys who

get it and women just instantly respond to them. But it’s true because when you can show a girl

that you understand her world, then you’re showing her that you’re kind of an insider in the

world of women and that’s really what we want to be.

We want to be someone who is able to freely flow in and out of the world of women without

any problems or distractions. We don’t want to be one of the guys that women refer to as

creeps, as weirdos, as people who basically are nerds or just the average guy who doesn’t

understand how girls work, doesn’t understand how they thing, doesn’t understand anything

about them other than that they smell good and they’re soft – which is a good enough starting

off point.

Why is this important?

It’s important because girls don’t really hook up with guys they think don’t understand them –

or at least basically understand women. There’s that old story about Freud where he, at the

time, was the preeminent psychologist of his day – and still to this day is one of the fathers of

modern psychology even though he was also a coke fiend who didn’t get REM sleep for like a

full year when he was coming up with his theories. But, I digress…

On his death bed, they asked if there was anything he didn’t understand about the human

condition and he said he didn’t understand what women want. Honestly, I think Freud was

probably not giving himself enough credit, because it ain’t that hard to figure out. It’s upsetting

and kind of annoying, but it’s not really that difficult to figure out.

It comes down to the idea of logic versus emotion. Men are very, very, very logical. We are

people who want to know the specific details. We want to know, if you’re driving, do you go

north, or east, or west, or south. We want to know landmarks. We want to know how that

computer works. We want to know why people think John F. Kennedy was assassinated. We

want to know things that are logical, precise, detailed, organized, and rational.

That generally tends to be a stereotype, but it is a very good stereotype – and a stereotype for a

reason, because men are way, way more logical than women. Men and women work on a

different wavelength. Men want to know the logic, the specific, the technical. Women want to

know how it feels and women want to feel their emotions.

There’s a great quote in the book “The Way of the Superior Man” that I’m probably going to

mangle. Basically, he talks about how women are like these emotional storms and they’re going

to be blowing all over the place in different directions. There’s no logic to it. It’s kind of like a

tornado, hurricane, monsoon, or one of those big fucking storms that just comes in, blows all

over the place, fucks your shit up and there’s no rhyme or reason to it. The wind blows both

ways, the water gets sucked up. Sometimes there’s water, sometimes there’s not. Sometimes

there’s dust, sometimes there’s not. It’s all over and women are emotionally reacting 100%.

Men – we’re kind of like a rock in this storm. Or in the idealized version of ourselves, we are a

rock in this storm and we kind of understand what is going on, but we don’t have that same

level of emotion.

So when it comes to women, what gets you the girl is the way you make her feel.

As men, in addition to being really logical and wanting things to make sure and be consistent

and rational – which I think is a good thing sometimes, but it’s kind of boring sometimes too

(there are definitely reasons that’s not always good) – we’re also much more verbally and

physically direct. We touch, we grope, we grab, we awkwardly state interest and we hit on girls,

and that’s basically how we communicate.

Men are kind of like a train that goes in a straight line. We want to just get from point A to point

B in the easiest most hassle‐free, most logical kind of manner that we can – and as quickly as

we can.

Women, on the other hand, come equipped with a more sophisticated way of communicating.

A lot of this comes from the idea of social programming. A quick disclaimer on social

programming, because I really think that a lot of dating coaches – and I’m not going to name

names – who harp on social programming as it’s the worst possible thing in the world and it’s

designed to keep you down and make you unhappy. There are even men’s groups now that are

like, “You’ve been socially programmed to raise children that aren’t yours” and they go to these

extremes that are really not only unhealthy, but kind of crazy. Not fun crazy like I think I am, but

legitimately disturbed, like Timothy McVeigh unibomber crazy.

That’s not okay either. So I don’t want to say that social programming is entirely bad, because

we do need social programming to have a society, to live in a society where we don’t get

murdered or raped or robbed or have fucking terrorism. We need some social programming.

Part of that is the social programming that has brainwashed women. From early on, their

parents teach them to say no. Not to mention the dozens of organizations and various other

bodies, such as the Christian and Catholic churches, the harems in ancient Egypt, on and on to

the Middle East situations. Basically, all of these groups and people have stepped up and told

women not to have sex.

They told girls to wait and it’s best to be monogamous and that sex is supposed to be special

and shared. Sex should be amazing and this, that, and the other and it goes on and on until at

an early age women start to think that sex is taboo and that’s where a lot of the programming

comes from. It comes because of the societal rules laid down by men.

So dudes who are super upset at the social programming, be mad at those dudes. Don’t be mad

at women. A lot of guys are like, “Oh, women are bitches.” Dudes cause that. We socially

programmed women as we were building society to protect our investment.

If you want to look back at why a lot of this stuff happened, it comes down to raising kids, as

most of this stuff does, once you get to a really deep level. Back in the day, as a woman, you

have much more at risk having sex than a man does. You still do. It’s a little more mitigated now

because of condoms and abortions and Plan B and the other abortion pill that you can take if

you’re still six weeks in. There are a lot of options so you’re not going to have a kid if you don’t

want to.

But back in the day, 40,000 or 50,000 years ago – even 1,000 years ago. I always go way back

when I’m talking about this kind of stuff as if 500 years ago it was any different. Until recent

modern medical breakthroughs, if a woman got pregnant, she was really kind of in the lurch if

the dude just took off. As a guy, I can get a girl pregnant and run away to Mexico and that girl is

going to be stuck. She can’t run away from the pregnancy.

She’s got to carry that kid, she’s got to have someone to protect her to help her eat because

pregnancy is very draining in terms of energy. It’s very draining in terms of you can’t really

work, so you need access to resources.

Basically, to have a kid, women need a man to kind of be invested in them. That’s one part of

the programming. Women want to get you invested before they have sex with you because

they want to make sure that you don’t just impregnate them and bounce.

The second part of this is actually from the man’s perspective. You will probably be psyched to

hear this, because it’s the flip direction of men getting screwed over by women.

The other part of this is the idea of cuckolding. Cuckolding is what happens when a man

impregnates a woman and then she tricks another man into raising that kid and giving it

resources and loving it and taking care of it – and her. That’s a real shitty situation, too. As you

can see by the reactions on the Montell Jordan Show or the Maury Povich show when they find

out the guy is not the father and the guys act like they just won the Super Bowl.

There’s equal sides investment in sex to not lose your investment. Both sides want to not lose

their investment.

Having said that, that’s kind of the biological reason. Now I want to talk about why women have

sex. I’m actually going into my outline of the “Why Women Have Sex” book, which I never

released publically. I just kept it for myself, just because I didn’t really know how to present it. It

wasn’t product material. I didn’t really want to put it on the blog either, because I would have

to do more extrapolating.

I want to talk a little about why women have sex. The book “Why Women Have Sex” is an

interesting book. I’m not sure I necessarily can recommend it unless you’re really interested in

this kind of stuff, because it is kind of scientific. It’s kind of dry, but there are some interesting

things that came out of it that I want to discuss.

The first one is a list of ten major reasons that women have sex. They’re basically ranked from

most common to least common. We’re going to be talking about those kind of quickly, and then

we’re going to talk about some of the other things that I thought were interesting in this book

about female psychology and female sexual selection.

I’ll give you my thoughts on each of the ten reasons women have sex as I go through it.

1. Love

Love is the number one reason that women have sex. Not anything else. This is exhaustive

research. Not through questionnaires, but through intense interviewing and other scientific

methods outside of just asking, which you can’t really necessarily control.

So the number one reason women have sex is because they’re in love with a guy, because they

feel that incredible sensation of what they call the triangle theory of love, which is intimacy,

passion, and commitment that form romantic love. That’s the first reason. They feel intimacy

with that person. They feel they understand that person. That person knows them. They know

you and they feel that it’s an intimate shared one‐on‐one relationship.

The second is passion. Passion is incredibly powerful. They feel that they are passionate about

the other person. They want to be around them. They want to know everything about them.

They want more of that person than anyone else.

Commitment means that there’s a long‐term future. There’s something big and correct and

rooted and solid in the relationship as opposed to a non‐committed, loose, flaky relationship.

That’s the number one reason women have sex. I don’t think that’s being brought up because

Helen Fisher is a woman who wrote the book. I really do believe that most women do have sex

based on love. We’re not just talking about pickups. This is not just a pickup. In a pickup, is the

sex love? No, of course not. It’s going to be one of these nine other things.

But when women are having sex in relationships, in marriages, the majority of sex being had is

going to be because of love, because of those three feelings: intimacy, passion, and

commitment.

Number two and number three are kind of interesting.

2. Jealousy

That’s right – jealousy. Why do women have sex because of jealousy? When we get to point

number three, I’ll talk about jealousy in a pickup. When I was talking about social programming

and how we’ve evolved psychologically and behaviorally, I talked about cuckolding and

investment and how women want to keep you around because of the kid and how you want to

make sure the kid is you’re and that you’re not getting chumped out.

Jealousy fits really nicely into that because jealousy is the evolved response that gives us the

emotion to be concerned with that. If we didn’t care at all about getting cuckolded or losing the

man, then we wouldn’t have jealousy. We’d be like, “Eh, whatever, who cares?”

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